Some situations as a caregiver do require precision, especially when it comes to your senior’s health. But when you’re micromanaging that means that you’re paying a little too much attention to details that don’t need as much perfection as you might believe.
Micromanaging Is Exhausting
When you’re a micromanaging caregiver, every single detail has to be handled the way that you want it to be handled, every single time. There’s definitely a time and a place for that sort of precision, but in regular everyday life, you can probably lighten up. While you might want the dishwasher loaded a certain way, it can still clean the dishes if someone loads it differently than you might.
Give up Some Control
Many people who micromanage are really battling control issues. There’s probably something that you’re feeling is out of control and managing these other issues to a minute detail can help you to feel more in control of everything. The problem is that no matter how exacting you are as a caregiver, you simply cannot control everything. You have to give up some control at some point.
Delegate and Then Step Away
If you’re lucky enough to have someone to help you, it’s best to let them do it. In the case of the dishwasher example, it’s a tremendous help to have someone who is willing and able to take care of those dishes for you and your senior. Does it really matter how the machine is loaded as long as someone does it and it washes the dishes. Delegate the task and then let the person handle the task. Don’t stand over their shoulder.
It’s Not about Perfection
It might help to keep reminding yourself that this is not about perfection. Tasks need to be done and it doesn’t always matter how precisely they’re handled. The fact that these tasks are being handled, either by you or by someone else, needs to be enough for you in the moment. Allow yourself to be graceful with the people who are helping you and your elderly family member. If you don’t, you may find it increasingly difficult to line up any help at all.
If you’re still having trouble with micromanaging, you may need to talk to a professional. Everything doesn’t have to go exactly one way, but that is a difficult belief to let go of on your own. Find a counselor that you can talk to and work through why you’re feeling the way that you are.
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