A series of health scares, accidents and mistakes made it clear that Jack’s father needed some in-house elderly care services. Jack thought that it would be easy to convince his father to hire some regular help, but it did not go smoothly. After the initial conversation, Jack’s father stubbornly refused to talk about it again. Despite several attempts to bring up the topic of elderly care providers, Jack’s father continued to resist, even after another slip and fall accident happened.
Few elderly adults look forward to the time when they can no longer take care of themselves independently. Age brings on physical and mental decline that often requires outside assistance from others. When adult children try to talk to their aging mom or dad about the possibility of elderly care services, they often experience stubborn resistance to the idea. So, what can family members do when an aging parent doesn’t want elderly care services?
Many elderly adults don’t want to deal with the emotions and feelings that come up when someone suggests to them that they can no longer take care of themselves well. Complicated emotions such as pride, embarrassment, shame, guilt and anxiety are certainly part of an elderly person’s refusal to take in-home care. Family members that want to have productive conversations about the future of their aging loved one’s in-home care need to address the real cause of the problem.
Sometimes one of the best ways to get an aging parent to consider an elderly care provider is to take them through a list of important health and safety issues to see how their current needs are being met. This can be done by a family member, friend, doctor, social worker, clergy member or another trusted individual. Here are some of the areas for seniors to address:
- Are they wearing clean clothes every day?
- Is their personal hygiene adequate and acceptable?
- Are they properly bathing or showering?
- Do they have access to fresh and nutritious food?
- Can they make and eat healthy meals every day?
- Is the house relatively clean and tidy?
- Do they suffer from bumps, bruises and frequent falls?
- Are they remembering to take their medication on time?
- Can they still drive safely without endangering themselves or others?
- Are their bills being paid on time and in full?
- Do they get out regularly to visit friends and family or do a hobby?
Hopefully, when the elderly adult is objectively shown that they are no longer active and able as they once were, they may be open to the possibility of an elderly care provider at their home. There’s never an ideal time to bring up such a sensitive topic but for the health and safety of the aging parent, family members need to do so. If they are met with resistance, they need to exercise patience and plenty of persuasion to get their aging parent to consider elderly care services.
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